Couples Therapy
I don't believe healthy relationships all look the same. Whether your relationship is monogamous, polyamorous, kinky, queer, or still figuring out what feels right, therapy isn't about fitting your relationship into someone else's definition of success. It's about helping you build a relationship that reflects your values, your goals, and the life you want to create together.
Many couples come to therapy worried that they're "too far gone" or that the conversations they need to have will only make things worse. My goal is to create a space where difficult conversations become possible, not because they're easy, but because they no longer have to be navigated alone.
When working with couples, I often describe myself as a "pattern tracker." Together, we'll begin noticing the patterns that emerge in your relationship: where the two of you naturally work well together, where you tend to get stuck, and what keeps those cycles going. Once we understand those patterns, we can decide together which ones are serving your relationship and which ones you'd like to change.
Whether you're hoping to reconnect, better understand one another, or decide what the next chapter of your relationship looks like, therapy can provide the structure and support to explore those questions together.
Things couples often are looking to work on...
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Differences in sexual desire or intimacy
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Communication that feels stuck or repetitive
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Rebuilding trust after infidelity
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Navigating conflict and recurring arguments
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Opening a relationship or exploring ethical non-monogamy
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Changes in identity, sexuality, or gender
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Life transitions affecting the relationship
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Mismatched expectations around commitment, parenting, or future goals
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Improving emotional and physical intimacy
On Desire...
One of the most common concerns I see in couples therapy is differences in desire.
It's incredibly common for people to experience guilt or shame when their desire for their partner changes or no longer looks the way it once did. The reality is that desire is influenced by countless factors: stress, health, life transitions, relationship dynamics, parenthood, medication, identity, and so much more.
Rather than assuming something is "wrong," we'll work together to understand what your desire is communicating. My hope is that therapy becomes a place where you can approach these questions with curiosity instead of shame.
